The last two months were a blur. From my youngest daughter’s dance competitions, dance recital and end-of-school year activities for both girls, to promoting my book here and there and leading small group book discussions, to training new employees and students at work, time has simply flown by. It actually felt like Hurricane “Katina’s life” hit and left my schedule, emotions, motivation, drive, and focus scattered all over.
Have you ever felt scattered all over?
In a 2014 article entitled, “No, You Can’t Have It All”, Mark Manson wrote:
“I get emails all the time from people who complain about work/life balance. There are articles all over the mainstream media debating whether it’s possible to “have it all” — i.e., is it possible to be an all-star in your career and have a healthy family life and have cool and fun hobbies and be financially stable and have that sexy bikini body and cook organic soufflé in your underwear while buying beachfront property on your new iPhone 6, all at the same time?”
The article was written five years ago and the only thing that has changed is no one has an iPhone 6 any more! We have evolved in our phone technology but the psychology remained the same. We want to have it all! Annnnnnnnd even if we don’t want to admit it, a look at our to-do lists and schedules will be a dead giveaway.
I just finished listening the book “Essentialism. The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown“. If you do not listen to audio books—YOU NEED TO! In my opinion, silence and audiobooks are waaaaaay better car companions than radio! But I digress. Greg made two key takeaway statements in the book which caused me to pause and reflect:
“Only once you give yourself the permission to stop trying to do it all, to stop saying yes to everyone, you can make your highest contribution towards the things that really matter.”
“If you take one thing away from this book, I hope you will remember this: whatever decision or challenge or crossroads you face in your life, simply ask yourself, ‘What is essential?’ Eliminate everything else.”
Have you ever asked yourself what is/was essential and then eliminated everything else?
In all honesty, I have asked myself what was essential. Then, I made sure to get the essential thing done first and tried to get all the other stuff done too.
So this summer, instead of a bucket list, I am going to have an ongoing “Un-bucket list” ( a list of things I will not be doing).
I haven’t figured my complete list out yet but here are a couple of things:
Guilt or pressure myself about writing on this blog. ( I know authors need content and a blog is an awesome way to provide it. BUT what is essential to me is that my readers really get to know me and we form a tribe. Tribes are founded on authenticity. So, I will write when I have something to say not simply because I haven’t blogged in a while.)
Incessantly jockey to be noticed, blast posts on social media or worry about followers. (I am going to a Christian Women’s Conference this summer with an opportunity to meet with Christian Book Publishers about my book. Most of the publishers want authors who have a following or already have an established platform. Followers and an established platform means less of a risk for them. I get it…it’s business. However, scurrying off into a social media frenzy is NOT ESSENTIAL to my life right now. So, I am going to do my best to prepare for my publisher meetings and leave the results up to God.)
“If the devil cannot make us head in the wrong direction, then he will do the next best thing – kill our efficiency by driving us to head in one hundred good directions, and keep us from the one primary direction God wants.” –David Ramos
What is essential for you right now?
Better is a little with the [reverent, worshipful] fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble with it. Proverbs 15:16 AMP