Today’s post is part of a weekly link-up called Five Minute Friday. Each week, Christian writers from all over the word write about the same word prompt. Today’s word is: Measure
Of all the roads I have EVER traveled the “high road” is and was the least enjoyable. Just saying the words “high road” gets me all “in my feelings” with a fair amount of neck and eye rolling.
Why must I take the stupid high road. Why can’t they take it? And since we are being honest here, let me just tell you: the high road trip sucks. It sucks because when I am on it, I feel like I am loosing.
The Urban Dictionary defines taking the “high road” as doing the right thing even it is not popular or easy. In my friend Tinisha’s words, it means not taking my rightful place on the throne as Queen Petty.
When I was going through my divorce, I listened to a sermon series by Andy Stanley called “Your Move”. One of the questions he asked during the series really spoke to my heart. Andy asked, “How do you want to tell your story?” He said; whatever we are going through right now, no matter how horrific, we will summarize when someone asks us about it in the future.
The lifetime “golden ticket” for me was the realization that as a person of integrity, I want to be able to tell the stories of my trying times with honesty. Meaning, even if I summarize, I don’t want to leave off how I keyed their car, showed out at their job, or outed them and our entire situation on social media.
But this high road thing goes much deeper than being able to tell a truthful story. Taking the high road is a measure of success.
Life is all about relationships. At the end of our lives, it is doubtful any of us will recall success at work. The true measure of life are the people in our lives. The high road is how we manage our relationships well.
When someone hurts us, we have a choice about which road we will take. We can go low and do and say whatever feels good at the moment. Or, we can go high by walking away and saying nothing or by exercising our boundaries and expressing our feelings without malice and negativity.
“For with the standard of measurement you use [when you do good to others], it will be measured to you in return.” Luke 6:38b (AMP)
How do you measure success?
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