Enjoy Valentine’s Day..Single, Married, or “It’s complicated”

broken_heartSo tomorrow is Valentine’s Day.  I don’t know about you but my Facebook feed is full of pictures of flowers, candy, balloons and status updates of special date plans.  When you have your own flowers, candy and special plans, other people’s pictures are just other people’s pictures.

When you are alone, but really want to be in a relationship , married but things are far from wedded bliss, divorced, or in the no-man zone of separation,  other people’s flowers and candy can cause your eyes to roll.

The eyes roll but as you longingly look at every one else’s “seemingly perfect love relationship”, the heart can sink.

Even if it is not a relationship. What about all of those really cute Valentine crafts and baked goods people post on Pinterest?

One quick stroll through social media and if we are not careful, we can begin to compare our selves with others.  Not in a I-have-no-life-and-I-am-bitter kind of way but just in a way that softly reminds us…..things are not as we would like.

Sometimes we were ok with ourselves UNTIL we looked at our news feed and then we figured are not as fit, talented, dedicated or loved as someone else.

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” ~Steve Furtick

So, as I chart the new territory of not having a Valentine, I challenge myself and you to enjoy this Valentine’s Day by writing down three things that are going well in our lives and by NOT comparing! 

Everything is NOT always as it seems anyway.

I found this picture on Pinterest FAIL! Love it!

Pinterest fail Valentine's Day!

Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. Galatians 6:4


Wreck it Ralph…Really?-Pour Your Heart Out


My girls were out of school last Monday and since we get all the newest movies at our local movie theater for $3.00, we took the girls to see Wreck It Ralph. Yes, I know. My husband and I both rolled our eyes as we walked through the theater doors. We didn’t expect much and were pleasantly surprised!

Perhaps hubby and I were entertained because we are 80’s arcade kids. The set of the movie is a hidden world of video game characters and what they do at night, after the children have all left the arcade. It kind of reminded me of Toy Story.

“Ralph” is the heel in a video game called Fix-It Felix Jr. His job in the game is to destroy buildings and try to keep Felix from repairing the damage. Felix fixes everything, so the game always ends with Felix getting a metal. As the resident “bad guy”, Ralph NEVER gets a medal. He does his best as a “bad guy” but no one EVER notices.  He even attends “BAD-ANON”–hilarious!

Ralph decides to take charge of his life and get some glory for himself.  So, he leaves his game to get a medal.  After some really funny twists and turns, Ralph finds himself in the kart racing game Sugar Rush. Sugar Rush is where he meets a fellow outcast – a glitched character named Vanellope Von Schweetz who is not allowed to race.

Ralph and Vanellope develop a true friendship. The banter between Ralph and Vanellope kept me laughing.  It is through their friendship that Ralph learns what being a real hero is all about and it has nothing to do with medals. Finally he says and means “There’s no one else I’d rather be than me”.

Proverbs 19:21  Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.

There is no showmanship in heroism. There is just the next thing. Sometimes that thing might feel small – like helping your kid with his math homework. And sometimes it might feel big…” Lisa Jo Baker

Did you know that you are hero material?  Medals are not required.

This post is part of a weekly meme hosted by Shell over at Things I can’t say