3 Buckets to a Better Week

So it’s Monday again.  I’ve got to be honest with you, Monday has traditionally been my least favorite day of the week.  Perhaps it is the obvious things like going back to work and beginning the single-working-mommy weekly shuffle that cause me to cringe when the alarm clock goes off.  Perhaps it is frustration about so many things that are out of my control right now.

I recently listened  to an amazing podcast by Mitch Matthews called Dream Think Do. The basic premise of the entire the Dream Think Do podcast is “taking small but significant steps towards living more in the moment, bringing our best game and making room to DREAM bigger, THINK better and DO more of the things we’re put on the planet to do”.  Amen right?

Mitch shared a concept on one particular episode that I LOVE.  It is called the 3 Buckets.  “The 3 Buckets” are actually a mental filing system for things that come at us in life.  Mondays are a perfect opportunity for things to come at us from all kinds of directions.

The 3 Buckets concept actually prompts you to ask yourself three questions as soon as you are tempted to get worried, afraid, frustrated or angry:

1.  Can I control it?

2.  Can I influence it?

3.  Do I need to let it go?

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We are going to dive into the “3 bucket” concept as the week progresses.  But for today, what things do you know you need to file before you even get the day going? What things do you need to reorganize?  Meaning, what things do you need to take out of one bucket and put in another one?

So here are a few things I am filing today:

1.  My attitude—“Control it Bucket”- Although I may often hate to admit it, I have the power to CHOOSE how I view and respond to my surroundings.

2.  My children-“Influence it Bucket”-As much as I would LOVE to make them do everything I tell them to do, they are their own free will beings and can ultimately choose what to do.  My job is to influence them to make wise decisions by teaching them God’s truth, providing loving correction with consequences and being an example.     Funny how I often put my children’s behavior in the “Control it” bucket.  Then, I take my attitude and put it in the “Let It Go” bucket and  well…”Let It Go” all over them.

3.  Results-“Let it Go Bucket”-This is a doozy but so important for me.  I have had a VERY STRESSFUL YEAR and although I exercise regularly and eat a pretty healthy diet, I just can’t seem to get rid of these extra 10 pounds.  Most people say they can’t tell but I can.  In utter defiance, I have not bought any new pants.  I have turned into “Leggings Girl”. Thank God for stretchy fabric and long flowing tops.  I cannot control if I ultimately lose weight or not or how long it will take.  Sucks I know!  So I have to LET IT GO!  The results get refiled under let it go and I can focus on what is in the control bucket..my diet, exercise, managing my stress and my attitude.

“It’s God’s job to grow our careers or our families or our home business–if he wishes.  It’s his job to orchestrate the details.  It’s our job to watch them fall into place and then move when and where he tells us…”-Karen Ehman

Can you think of a few things you need to file in a bucket today?

Want to print out the three buckets to remind yourself this week?  Go here.

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand. Isaiah 41:10

Happy Monday!



Christmas Crunch Time-Be Flexible


It is almost THE DAY…Christmas…the culmination of the “The Most Wonderful Time of the Year”.  Over the next week, families will gather, travel to gather,split their time between various households, attend church services and all other kinds of “good stuff”.

It is all of this “good stuff” ( the who, what, where and why) that often leaves people just wanting the whole holiday thing to be over or simply dreading it before it starts.  Perhaps it is just me but creating Hallmark Card or ABC Family Holiday Movie quality Christmas memories can be difficult.

I struggle with the “who, what, where, hustle-bustle and gift-buying” part Christmas every year.  Even when I thought I had the whole thing figured out and I put my foot down on some things….plans changed.

So my mantra this Christmas is to be Flexible.

Everything is NOT going to go as I planned and that is ok.  Better yet, that may be for the best. (I will have to remind myself of this over and over…because things just go better when they are done my way. Hehe!)

People’s lives change–weddings, deaths, births, sickness.  What has ALWAYS worked for years may or may not work this year or EVER again.

Top all the plan changes, gifts, and family  with the realization that somebody will probably dance on your happy and you have a recipe for the famous “Unmet-Christmas-Expectations-fruitcake”!

As the moments progress….pretend you are playing twister and remember to be flexible.Image Source: Wikipedia

“If we aren’t careful to be intentional, the joy of the holiday season can quickly be replaced with hard feelings, anger, and disappointment. More than anything, sometimes extending grace to ourselves and others is the simplest way to allow us to experience the most wonderful time of the year.”-Kelly Gordon (www.simplemom.net)

Colossians 3:12-14 (NLT)

Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tender-hearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.

Five Minute Friday-Here

Five Minute FridayEvery Friday, Lisa Jo Baker hosts a blog link up called Five Minute Fridays. She provides a word prompt and then participants are to set their timers for five minutes and then write until the timer goes off. The word for today is Here. Happy Friday Divas and here goes:

Here is the only thing I have right now.  Here is the place I am currently located at any given point of time.  Here is the product of my yesterdays.  Yet, so often I ask God, “How did I get HERE?”. 

If I am really honest, I don’t spend a lot of time “here” mentally.   I am often thinking and planning on the next thing.

“Of course things will be better when I am THERE instead of here, right?”

Well, that all depends.  When I get THERE, I will really be at the very place I am currently located…..HERE (then).

Dear God, help me remember that THERE  is really HERE when I get to it.  Oh Lord, forgive me for always striving for the next bling without enjoying the raw beauty of the gem called “HERE”.

Matthew 6:30-33 (The Message)

“If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don’t you think he’ll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.”