Enjoy Valentine’s Day..Single, Married, or “It’s complicated”

broken_heartSo tomorrow is Valentine’s Day.  I don’t know about you but my Facebook feed is full of pictures of flowers, candy, balloons and status updates of special date plans.  When you have your own flowers, candy and special plans, other people’s pictures are just other people’s pictures.

When you are alone, but really want to be in a relationship , married but things are far from wedded bliss, divorced, or in the no-man zone of separation,  other people’s flowers and candy can cause your eyes to roll.

The eyes roll but as you longingly look at every one else’s “seemingly perfect love relationship”, the heart can sink.

Even if it is not a relationship. What about all of those really cute Valentine crafts and baked goods people post on Pinterest?

One quick stroll through social media and if we are not careful, we can begin to compare our selves with others.  Not in a I-have-no-life-and-I-am-bitter kind of way but just in a way that softly reminds us…..things are not as we would like.

Sometimes we were ok with ourselves UNTIL we looked at our news feed and then we figured are not as fit, talented, dedicated or loved as someone else.

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” ~Steve Furtick

So, as I chart the new territory of not having a Valentine, I challenge myself and you to enjoy this Valentine’s Day by writing down three things that are going well in our lives and by NOT comparing! 

Everything is NOT always as it seems anyway.

I found this picture on Pinterest FAIL! Love it!

Pinterest fail Valentine's Day!

Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. Galatians 6:4



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  2. Love the last scripture…it is so true about everything in life when it comes to happiness. I also think it is important not to get caught up in the drama/peer pressure of Valentine’s Day. It looks like a day of making someone happy (or else), but really seems designed for people to spend much money as a show of “love.” What is most important is what happens a week after, or six months after that day. The day to show everybody what you got is for show; when the candy’s eaten and the flowers are gone, is the love strong? That’s what matters. So, if anyone wants flowers and candy, they should buy them (any day of the year) and not wait for others to fulfill that desire. Love for yourself first (underlined, italicized) is where happiness starts.

  3. Thank you for this post and the scripture reference. Love is so much more deeper than just one day.

  4. Kim, you are so wise! Love your matter-of-fact personality!

    • Well, I guess with all of my great aging (haha) comes wisdom. And I been learning that lesson about making my self happy for what seems like a long time!! 🙂

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