So, this whole writing for thirty-one days thing is turning into a digital group therapy session for me. Today’s word is listen. Imagine we are all sitting around in uncomfortable, brown, stacking chairs. There is a facilitator sipping on tea off to the side of the circle and it’s my turn to greet everyone.
Hello. My name is Katina and I am not a good listener. I have very good intentions which often come up short because ideas and thoughts fly into my mind and then right out of my mouth. I either interrupt people and interject my opinion or space out and “hear” them but not understand a darn thing.
When I space out, it is usually because I am multi-tasking. (Having a phone conversation while scrolling though social media, or continuing to type when someone asks a question at work). It is also multitasking at play when I am jumping in on everyone else’s words. While they are talking, I am preoccupied with what my response will be to what I “think” they are saying.
Yeah, I was tempted to end this post now with “well I suck, see you tomorrow” but God rephrased my introduction of who I am:
My name is Katina and the ability to be all God calls me to be including an amazing listener, is within me.
Jesus listened well. He often stopped what He was doing to have a conversation.
What a marvel idea.
I’m not a bad listener. I just have opportunities for growth in the focus department.
I know my “focus” limitations:
- Music on while I parallel park is a definite NO!
- If I am in the car with my children and the radio is on AND they attempt to watch a loud video on their phones…absolutely not. (I can’t handle the opposing noise.)
- I was NEVER one of those people who could do their homework with the TV on.
- When I really need to think, I need quiet.
- I have lost things and then found them in weird places because I was multitasking and then…squirrel.
We just did an Ice Ice Baby salsa remix in my ZUMBA class on Wednesday. I think Ol’ Vanilla Ice had a lot of wisdom.
How can you be a better listener?